Accept things the way they are; communicate your preferences and come to a conscious agreement!
Expectations only lead to some form of disappointment (for the person expecting) and resentment (for the one expected-of).
Expectations are simply another way of wanting to control. Energetically, expectations are demands.
To accept an outcome, or communicate a desired outcome, is respectful of others and is a sign of a developed human. Accepting outcomes help eliminate the “negatives” of expectations and still help achieve what is desired.
To “do what is expected” is to be manipulated, or a way to manipulate. But to request and agree on something, whether it be a behavior or whatever else, is cooperation, not expectation.
Expectations are not “agreements,” they are usually secret demands, although they can be mutually manipulative agreements, where all parties get something they want, as a result of participating. Basically, any expectation is a non-verbal “I do ____ for you, if you do_____ for me,” a different kind of bribery. Expectations are usually set unconsciously and are almost always unspoken, but can sometimes be set when somewhat or wholly conscious. Expectations are not integrated and fall under the influence of several energy fields, two of which are:
- Desire – to fill a perceived need. It may be a need for repayment, justice, punishment, power, happiness, sense of worth, payback, proof of loyalty or love, etc.
- Fear – to provide safety of some sort
When an expectation goes unfulfilled, and one is not attached to the outcome, perceived pain is eliminated.
Eliminating expectations eliminates the potential for pain or hurt.
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