There is a certain seriousness to the work we do but we need to be able to joke and laugh about our faults, our silliness, or our programs that get us into trouble or get us into places where we don’t really need to be.
We have to learn to especially laugh at ourselves. To laugh at others is critical. To laugh at ourselves is to enjoy the futility or the silliness of these behaviors that do not benefit us in any way. We can enjoy their lightness; their immaturity even because they are in some ways like a child that is growing up and experimenting with things and trying different behaviors to try to overcome certain obstacles. We can see what the child it is doing is not going to work because we can see beyond where the child sees.
So it is the same with our behaviors and our programs. Once you become aware you can see that they are just childlike in nature. That they have not matured. That part of the person’s personality and identification system has not matured so they do very silly things; sometimes almost humorous to watch; humorous in a neutral way, not in a critical putting down way; which is very different.
There is a difference between us learning to become an observer as opposed to becoming a judge. An observer can find silliness in things and a judge will find wrongness in things. This is where we can bring humor to play into our life and even into our own patterning, even to just see the humor in own patterns.